9 Years Today

Nine years ago today, Crystal and I were married. Nine years is a not-so-long/really-long time.

Looking back over the past nine years is like looking across a mountain gorge. The distance isn’t too far, but to arrive at the other side can be quite the journey! Our path has led us through some fairly dark valleys and before some incredible vistas. As I mentally retrace the steps of our marriage there is much time there, but it seems like such a short distance. In my mind I can walk through moments and events, school semesters and pregnancy trimesters, early months and first years.

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In some ways I think I could have imagined standing where I am on this promontory. Our lives have followed a fairly defined path – school, marriage, international ministry, more school, ministry, child, international ministry. I could have guessed that. But as for the path we have walked, I saw no map before hand.

And that is good. God has graciously given us a vision for a general place he wants us to be, but he has given us himself and each other as we walk the sometimes steep path it takes to get there.

I am so thankful that I have had the not-so-long/really-long time with Crystal. God knew that I needed her for my good and his glory. This truth makes me even more excited for the coming years!

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Proof: God’s Grace

Point: The doctrines of God’s grace are not a club with which to beat people, nor a logical sequence to foster our argument, but a window through which we may see more clearly our great God.

Book: Montgomery, Daniel, and Timothy Paul Jones. PROOF: Finding Freedom through the Intoxicating Joy of Irresistible Grace. Zondervan, 2014.

(For the full review follow the link above)

 

Path: The authors help to explain the doctrines of grace by jettisoning the confusion-creating acronym of “TULIP” in favor of their own, “PROOF.” They take the reader through each of the doctrines:

  • “Planned Grace – Before time began, God mapped out the plan of salvation from first to last. God planned to adopt particular people as his own children; Christ offered himself as a sacrifice for these people’s sins and as a substitute who satisfied God’s righteous requirements in their place (John 10:11 – 18; Ephesians 1:4 – 12).
  • Resurrecting Grace – Everyone is born spiritually dead. Left to ourselves, we will never choose God’s way. God enables people to respond freely to his grace by giving them spiritual life through the power of Christ’s resurrection (John 5:21; Ephesians 2:1 – 7).
  • Outrageous Grace – God chose people to be saved on the basis of his own sovereign will. He didn’t base his choice to give us grace on anything that we did or might do (John 15:16; Ephesians 2:8 – 9).
  • Overcoming Grace – God works in the lives of his chosen people to transform their rebellion into surrender so that they freely repent and recognize Christ as the risen King (John 6:44, 65; Ephesians 2:4 – 10).
  • Forever Grace – God seals his people with his Holy Spirit so that they are preserved and persevere in faith until the final restoration of God’s kingdom on the earth (John 10:27 – 29; Ephesians 1:13 – 14; 4:30).”

Favorite Quote: ““The message here was vastly different from what we were used to! Learning that there is no way to earn God’s forgiveness was so freeing.” (Kindle loc 2847)

Stars: 4.5 out of 5

It would be worth another read and I would recommend it to someone who:
wants to see themselves and their God in a greater way
struggles with the terms “Calvinist” and “Arminian”
has ever used the phrase “I don’t know if I could worship a God like Calvin’s”

The Gospel and Children

On Wednesay night, during the adult Bible study at First Baptist we looked at the topic of “The Gospel and Children.” I thought I would post some of my notes in order to help anyone who was looking for clarification, or would like to ask other questions.

The Gospel and Children

If you cannot explain the gospel you probably don’t believe it.
That statement is both a rebuke to those of us who don’t think about it often, and an encouragement because the gospel can be be understood by a child.

What are some popular ways to share the gospel?

  • Romans Road
  • Wordless Book
  • Four Spiritual Laws (Campus Crusade)
  • Bridge to Life (Navigators)
  • Steps to peace with God (Billy Graham)
  • Bridge Tract
  • Two Ways to Live

These plans are helpful, but my goal is not to teach you a new plan, a secret tool, or a special key to success in evangelism.

There is no one-size-fits-all presentation, but there is only one gospel.

“We must be careful that we do not modify the gospel to suit various age groups. There is no such thing as a special gospel for the young, a special gospel for the middle-aged, and a special gospel for the aged. There is only one gospel, and we must always be careful not to tamper and tinker with the gospel as a result of recognizing these age distinctions. At the same time, there is a difference in applying this one and only gospel to the different age groups; but it is a difference which has reference only to method and procedure.”  (from Martyn Lloyd-Jones, knowing the times [Edinburgh: Banner of Truth, 1989], 2) HT John Macarthur.

The order and presentation are not set here. There are some parts that need to be understood before others, but not everyone starts on the same page. Each individual has a different background and understanding. So my goal is not to teach you a presentation, but to remind you of the ingredients, so as you talk with someone they all are put into the bowl.

So, what is the Gospel?

  • God – Holy
  • Man – Sinful
  • Christ – Sufficient
  • Response – Repentance and Faith are necessary
  • [Shared because of the Urgency of Eternity]


These components can be explained through:

  • The Big Story of Scripture: Creation – Rebellion – Redemption – Restoration
  • A Passage: Eph 2:1-10
  • Or even a single verse: John 3:16
  • Etc.

How does this match with what we normally say and do?

  • How does some of the phraseology we regularly use fall short? “Ask Jesus into your heart.” “Accepted Jesus.” Etc.
  • How do some of our methods fall short? “Pray this prayer.”
  • Why do they fall short? What is the fundamental difference between the essential components of the gospel and how we often speak and act? I would say the difference lies in the fact that we often consider faith as a prayer we pray instead of a posture we assume.
  • What problems does this present later? “Did I say it right?” “Did I really mean it?” “Do I remember it?” How are we supposed to test ourselves (2 Cor 13:5)?

 

Considerations for adults

  1. If we are focused on a prayer as faith, then we will probably ask a suspected unbeliever something to the effect of “has there ever been a time when you prayed and asked Jesus to come into your heart/forgive you of your sin/save you?” If they say no, we encourage them to say a prayer. If they say “I can’t remember,” we respond, “Would you like to make sure now?”
  2. However, if we see salvation as a gift from God through faith, we will want to ask about an individual’s posture before Christ. Instead of asking if they have ever said a prayer, we will want to ask questions revolving around the essential components of the gospel:
  • “How would you describe your relationship with God?”
  • “How do you think sin has affected humanity as a whole? How about you personally?”
  • “Who do you understand Jesus to be? How did you come to that conclusion?”
  • “Why do you think the cross was necessary?”
  • “What do you think Jesus expects of people today?”
  • “Are you confident in where you will go after you die? Why or why not?”
  • Etc.

3.  Encourage people to “test yourselves, to see if you are in the faith” (2 Cor 13:5). You don’t do this by trying to remember a prayer, but by seeing if there if fruit of repentance and faith.
As one of our college professors explained, a farmer doesn’t check his fields by digging up the seeds everyday in order to see if there is life in the seeds. He waits and watches for growth. Don’t dig up your prayer – look for life.
Consideration for Children

  • Recognize that we are trying to point them to Jesus, not get them to say a prayer.
  • Be sensitive. Your bedtime stories should end with “Jesus is the answer!” not the words “fiery hell.”
  • If they do make a profession:
  • Do not assure them in their prayer (“Now that you have prayed and asked Jesus in your heart you will go to heaven no matter what!”).
  • Instead assure them that Jesus is faithful (“When we trust in Jesus, he will always keep us!”).

From David Platt

  • Maximize Interaction: Ask questions; Encourage conversation; Ask open ended questions
  • Utilize Illustrations: Pictures; Concrete examples
  • Use Repetition: Constantly emphasize the threads of the gospel; Prioritize this teaching; Encourage a posture of repentance and faith

I would encourage you to read J. D. Greear, Stop Asking Jesus into Your Heart. Especially pages 47-50.

Tips to turn “Travel” into “Adventure”

The problem with traveling is that it can get tedious. We have put on plenty of miles in the last 15 months, and miles can be boring…unless you plan. If you want to turn your ordinary road trip into something memorable, follow these tried-and-true steps.

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1. Play Russian roulette with gas station bathrooms.” There will be another option closer to the highway!” Let that be your motto no matter what tears are shed or verbal abuse given from your passengers.

 

2. Only look down at your gas gauge once every hundred miles or so. The anticipation of wondering when the light came on is exhilarating.

 

3. Drive late at night after a heavy meal of a Culver’s meal basket which leaves you in a grease coma.

 

4. Drive INTO the storms that look like the coming apocalypse.

 

5. Store water bottles, small toys, or assorted Tupperware under the drivers seat. That way when you try to come to a quick stop or accelerate into traffic they roll around and get stuck under your pedals. Awesome.

 

6. Forget semi-important items at home, such as passports, presentation materials…or your shoes. Don’t ask.

 

Remember, to fail to plan is to plan to fail.

Missionary Letters – for those who read them and write them

Missionaries write letters. It really isn’t anything new. The Apostle Paul wrote letters. He was raising supporters in Romans, rebuking in Galatians, and then Corinthians…well, there was a lot going on Corinthians.

These communications go by different names – Missionary letters, Prayer letters, Ministry Updates, etc. Some missionaries have written hundreds of these update letters. (On a side note, someone should think about collecting a missionary’s letters and having them bound as a memory book for a retiring missionary.)

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Here are some recommendations to the reader – from my perspective as a missionary, and some recommendations to the writer – from my perspective as a reader. And in neither, reader nor writer, am I an expert!

Dear reader,

1. Please don’t sign up for all missionary updates. If you are not interested in the ministry at all, don’t feel obligated to write down your address. You don’t get bonus points with God for having 100 missionary emails a day filtered into spam.
2. Please don’t ignore the ones you do sign up for. You don’t have to memorize it. Just read it.
3. Please don’t discredit the thoughts. Give us grace in the gramer and speling. Our thoughts will be scrambled and our words will be englishized from some other language.
4. Please don’t read it and move on. Pray for one thing. Maybe a person, maybe a need, maybe an opportunity, but pray right then.
5. Please don’t assume that someone else will respond. A one sentence reply can be a huge encouragement!
6. Please don’t miss Jesus. If you are stunned at how awesome we are, you missed it…we missed it.

Now, as a reader of many missionaries’ letters, Dear Missionary:



1. Please show us what God is doing in your life and those around you. Is he changing you? Is he softening hearts? Is he totally disrupting your plans? Please tell me.
2. Please encourage us in seeing God’s greatness. Tell us what you know he is capable of. Tell us what you are burdened to pray for right now. Remind us that he has greater plans than we can fathom.
3. Please challenge us to be proclaiming the same God where we are at. I need to start thinking that God can work in my neighbor’s life like he is in your’s. You have some great ideas, encourage me to think outside my little box.
Some missionary updates I wait for in anticipation. I get excited when I get them, and when I finish reading them I am refreshed, thankful, prayerful, and challenged. I thank God for them.

Connecting

The past few days were great. We spent Monday-Wednesday down in the Cities with the Templetons and Fulks. Jon, Lorena, and family flew in from Pennsylvania and spent three days with us, talking, planning, laughing, and herding toddlers.

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It was exciting to talk about moving over to Spain in the next few months. We brainstormed about home location, volunteer opportunities, and even things like furnishing our apartment. We also just talked about life. We shared what we were learning, where we were struggling, what excites us, and what scares us.

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I don’t think I can overstate the importance of friends with whom you can open your heart. I thank God that people like the Templetons and Fulks are teaching me how to do that through their example.

The Marks of a Man: Habits of my Grandfathers

I have three grandfathers. Two had no choice in the matter because I was offspring, and the third would have stopped his granddaughter from marrying me had he realized I was from a John Deere family. Two have passed away, and one continues strong. I have great respect for each of them because they have finished, or are finishing, strong. That is not as much of a statement about them, as it is about their Savior.

Remember your leaders, those who spoke to you the word of God. Consider the outcome of their way of life, and imitate their faith. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever (Heb 13:7-8).

So even to old age and gray hairs, O God, do not forsake me, until I proclaim your might to another generation, your power to all those to come (Psalm 71:18).

The same Jesus who has kept my grandfathers is the Jesus who will keep me.

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As I consider their way of life, I see traits that they developed through the working of the Spirit of God. It would be difficult to list all their godly habits, and there are many that are not included on this list, primarily because I can’t handle drinking apple cider vinegar everyday, or tucking my pant legs into my socks when I am working in the yard. But those listed are the ones which continue to impact me.

My grandfathers sang. I have followed my Grandpa Jack around the yard as he hummed his personal soundtrack from before the time playlists were even invented. I have cringed as they sang robustly, caring not what their voice sounded like, but that it was heard.

My grandfathers drank tea or coffee with friends. I have sat with them in quaint cafes, across the campfire, or at their dinner table drinking from a steaming mug. I have seen them all sitting with their friends, drinking something warm, and talking.

My grandfathers laughed out loud. I have felt the joy that could not be contained. I have cried from laughter as they told stories of their blunders, my blunders, or just the humor spun through the tapestry of our universe.

My grandfathers read books. I have held the worn volumes of Louis L’Amour and Matthew Henry. I have read the highlights and notes in the biography of a king, president, or missionary.

My grandfathers kept a record of what God was doing in their lives. I have deciphered the scrawl of a 90 year old man as he penned his thoughts. I have leafed through a pile of stashed church bulletins and written sermons. I have read of the covenant-keeping God remaining faithful to an old man.

My grandfathers enjoyed the outdoors. I have walked behind the men who once carried me on their shoulders. I have sat in rafts, hiked the trails, and slept in snow beside my grandfathers. I have learned to stand beneath the expanse of the heavens and relish the feeling of insignificance married to love in the presence of the Father.

My grandfathers read the Bible. I have seen them read. I have held their Bibles. I have heard them quote the passages that they had memorized. I have sat and watched as they stood and told others about their great God.

My grandfathers prayed in my presence and in secret. I have bowed my head before the meal, or the trip, or the game, and heard them pray to their Maker that he would be glorified in what we were about to do. I have seen the effects of their daily prayers on my behalf.

My grandfathers never stopped loving the church. I have sat beside them, behind them, and before them as they attended, participated, and preached in churches. I have inherited the belief that there is no hobby, event, or illness that can keep one away from the church for long. I have talked with those upon whom the love of Christ flowed through my grandfathers.

My grandfathers sacrificed for what they believed in. I have listened to the voices of others as they recount the major difficulties, crisis points, and agonizing seasons in the lives of my forefathers. I have looked at the pictures of the times now past, the dreams now gone, and the loves now lost. I have recognized that the simple fact of me hearing these stories is proof that they did not abandon what they believed in – their God, their family, their work.

My grandfathers loved Jesus. He has kept them.

Living Christ

I recently read Robert L. Peterson’s biography entitled, “Robert Chapman: A Biography”. It was a challenging book, making me consider my own life. You can read the review here.

Here are several excerpts from the book:

“After hearing his first sermons some of Chapman’s friends offered the opinion that he would never be a good preacher. This undoubtedly cause him a lot of anguish, and his reply was telling: ‘There are many who preach Christ, but no so many who live Christ. My great aim will be to live Christ.'” (29)

“One of Chapman’s customs was to clean the shoes or boots of his visitors. After showing arriving guests to their rooms, he would instruct them to leave their footwear outside their doors so that he could clean them by the next morning. Typically they objected to his doing such a menial task, but he was quite insistent. One guest recorded Chapman’s answer to his objections: ‘It is not the custom in our day to wash one another’s feet; that which most nearly corresponds to this command of the Lord is to clean each other’s boots.'” (82).

J. Norman Case, missionary with Hudson Taylor, wrote, “The whole ordering of the household had in view not only the comfort, but the general spiritual, mental, and physical well-being of the many who came there for rest. It struck me at the time as being in its arrangement and conduct an ideal Christian household. The wisdom of retiring and rising early was forcibly taught by precept and example. Love and reverence for the Scriptures, and subjection thereto formed the very atmosphere of the house. There too, the ‘table-talk’ was turned to spiritual ends as I have never to the same degree elsewhere known. An ordinary meal became an agape, more helpful than many a long meeting. The living was plain but good. It was recognized that the body was the Lord’s, and should be treated accordingly. It was an ideal home for a tired or discouraged worker, or for a desponded or perplexed Christian. There one seemed naturally to be in the state of mind to hear the question and heed the exhortation to one of old: ‘Seekest thou great things for thyself? Seek them not.’ A stay there of days or weeks could not but deeply influence the whole aftercourse of a young Christian.” (82-83)

“In Chapman’s day the subject of prophecy was popular among many Christians. Although he occasionally preached on prophecy, he seemed not to have given it much prominence, in contrast to many preachers who gave the subject overriding importance. Perhaps he fel that too much ink and pulpit time were being devoted to a subject in which much interpretation was speculative and that such speculation was taking away time and energy from other essentials of the Christian life.” (169)

“Chapman new the difference between the essential doctrines of the Christian faith and those not essential to a saving faith. He did not permit his ego to defend nonessential, inferential doctrine at the expense of unity.” (172)

“During his last decade Chapman often said that those were the best days of his life. He had often prayed that his last years might be his best and God answered his servant’s prayer. Chapman reminded his friends that ‘the present times are the best for all of us; since our lot is cast in them, there is abundant grace to enable us to fully please God.’ He determined not to become a crotchety old man who just looked back at opportunities lost or what might have been. There was still abundant grace for living and pleasing God, and Chapman sought to serve the Lord as long as he was physically able.” (177)

Evangelism by Mack Stiles

Book: Stiles, J. Mack. Evangelism: How the Whole Church Speaks of Jesus. Crossway, 2014.

Point: Evangelism is something the individual engages in along side of the rest of the body of Christ.

Path: Stiles addresses how the local church can “do evangelism” poorly, and then by clarifying terms, looking at the NT, and giving examples he shows how the church can cultivate a culture of evangelism.

Agreement: I really appreciated the focus on how the church works together to share the Gospel. We are not alone. As we share Christ with others, we can trust that God will use others along side of us to draw people to himself. It challenged me to think broader than handing out a tract and walking away.

It would be worth another read and I would recommend it to someone who:
is interested in sharing their faith.
is seeking to help their local church.
is a church member.

The Gag: Traveling and Food

We have traveled our share, IMG_7337and have eaten from plenty of street vendors. There are certain phrases that I use in reference to meals, especially on our international trips. I thought I would share what I say…and what I mean.

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“This would go great with Doritos! Do you mind if I grab a bag?”
What I mean:
“I really need another flavor to add to/mask/overpower what we are eating so I can get it down.”

What I say:
“Thank you for the meal! How would like to go out for some Cokes? I will treat!”
What I mean:
“I hope the Coke kills any unruly parasites I just ingested.”

What I say:
“You don’t happen to have any Pepto-Bismol, do you?”
What I mean:
“Tell my wife and daughter that I loved them, and I was brave to the end.