Finally Free by Heath Lambert

Book: Lambert, Heath. Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace. Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2013.  Pages: 176

Point: God’s forgiving and transforming grace through Jesus Christ is able to overpower any sinful act or habit. 

Path: Lambert expertly relates the Gospel and its power as the foundation for this book, and then practically walks through the steps to see the forgiveness and transformation take place. Chapter 1 is dedicated to understanding the Gospel and then the following chapters deal with 8 Gospel enabled tools to fight the desire for porn. Chapter 2: the difference between godly and worldly sorrow. Chapter 3: what true accountability looks like. Chapter 4: radical measures to stay out of hell. Chapter 5: confession and repentance. Chapter 6: your spouse and purity. Chapter 7: those who pursue porn are prideful. Humble people don’t pursue porn. Chapter 8: gratitude and the fight. Chapter 9: how a growing relationship with Jesus will put a desire for porn to death.

Lambert, H.; Finally free

 

He also includes a very helpful appendix for those who have been hurt by a loved one in pornography. Sources: The author brings biblical truth, counseling experience, and wise teachers together in a format that is easy to read, easy to understand, and easy to remember.

Agreement: As a pastor who works with young men and families, this is an exceptional book. He is tasteful, so much so an early teen could read it (a problem I had with “Every Man’s Battle), yet thorough. He is Gospel centered. He is practical. While reading the book I was making a note of the people for whom I was going to buy a copy and read through it.

Disagreement: This is the best book I have read yet on the subject and struggled to think of a way to make it better. Personal App: Am I living in light of the power of the Gospel?

Favorite Quote: “You cannot look at Jesus and look at porn at the same time” (144). “Jesus is not your lapdog. He is your Sovereign Savior” (148).

Stars: 5 out of 5

This is a top shelf book. It would be worth another read and I would highly recommend it. If this review was helpful, let me know here.

Resource Review: Setting Captives Free

Resource Review: www.settingcaptivesfree.com 

Setting Captives Free offers a biblically based, interactive, free resource for those struggling with specific sinful behaviors. It has courses on Food Issues, Sexual Purity, Gambling, Substance Abuse, Self-injury, and then other general Bible studies.

I discovered this resource while in seminary. One of our professors recommended that we go through at least one of the courses in order to know enough to pass it on to others as a counseling resources. It has been an encouraging experience and I highly recommend it for these reasons:

The focus is on Christ. The courses are not merely intent on breaking an annoying habit, but leading someone to godly repentance through a proper view of Christ. Jesus is presented as the Christ, the Son of God. He is the fountain of living water and only satisfier.

The lessons are based in Scripture. It is not like the “power verse” mentality where one selection of words is ripped from its context to prove a point.

It presents the Gospel not as merely a way to erase everything in the past, but to have victory over it. The Gospel is the power of God for salvation – with both past, present, and future ramifications. We need the Gospel every day to be saved.

They ask tough questions. They do not pull punches, but ask you to be honest.

They give hope. They do not label you or relegate you to a category for the rest of your life. You are not merely a “recovering ________.” Instead they teach you how Jesus can free you from the domination of sin. They don’t tell you that it will be easy, or that you will never struggle, but those in Christ have been given victory and have sufficient grace to live in light of that reality.

There are many lessons. I cannot give the number of every series, but I imagine they are all similar (50-60 lessons). This tells me that the creators understand sin (that it is ingrained), people (that we need repetition), and habits (that it takes time).

The lessons are are long enough to be significant, but not too long. Each lesson will take 15-30 minutes, a great investment of time. Doing a lesson is not like taking on a two hour challenge, which makes it easier to commit every day.

The lessons are interactive. Each lesson has questions to answer through multiple choice and essay. They ask you to share your thoughts, experiences, and struggles.

There is review. After each lesson you receive an email with an additional thought and your answers from the day. It also repeats key principles throughout the series which have been learned earlier.

There are mentors. An individual, someone who has been through the course before, can connect with you and encourage you throughout the course. They pray for you, email you, and remain open for questions.

The course is flexible. If you miss a day, or two, it picks up where you left off. You can choose to do one lesson a week, three lessons a week, a lesson every day, or a mixture of any of them. They encourage consistency, but they also understand that life happens.

There is an app for that. No excuses. If you delete a social media app off your phone you will find more than enough time to do this course!

Free.

Takeaways:

This is not a replacement for one to one admonishment in the Scriptures, but it would go great with regular counseling. It is not feasible, nor wise in many situations, to meet with someone everyday for 50-60 days. However, if you met once a week and helped someone through this course there would be incredible potential.

We could learn a lot about biblical counseling from how they operate these courses.

Take a course. Even if you don’t feel like you struggle with one of the options, someone in your church does. Start taking it, then invite someone to join you. Set up a time to talk about it regularly.

So, since you just went and started a course, what are your initial thoughts?

Anger

JAMES 1:19-20
KNOW THIS, MY BELOVED BROTHERS: LET EVERY PERSON BE QUICK TO HEAR, SLOW TO SPEAK, SLOW TO ANGER; FOR THE ANGER OF MAN DOES NOT PRODUCE THE RIGHTEOUSNESS THAT GOD REQUIRES.

 Here are two resources available to you for better understanding and handling anger. I would recommend that you read through the overview sheet and a few of the books noted on the back. The principles found in the heart journal ought to be employed after any sin.
    Crystal compiled the overview sheet and has added some helpful books on the back. Much of the information was taken from those books.

Lost in the Middle

Lost in the Middle: MidLife and the Grace of God

By Paul David Tripp

Product Details

  1. Paperback: 348 pages
  1. Publisher: Shepherd Press
  1. Language: English
  1. Date of reading: October 19, 2011

Point: Tripp strives to help the reader understand the struggles that they are going through in the light of God’s grace and love for them. This book is so that you as the reader may see God and yourself more clearly, and that you might find the hope that you need to continue on in life.

Path: Tripp takes the reader through a variety of Bible passages, real life stories, and biblical concepts in order that the real problems behind midlife can be shown.

Agreement: I am not at this stage of life, and I found this book immensely helpful! I found myself forgetting that he was talking about a stage in life that I will probably not arriving to for another twenty years. Tripp talks a lot about our identity being worshippers of God and not tied to all of the other things to which our sinful natures draw us.

Tripp shows how midlife just reveals what idols we may have had in our lives for a long time, such as: health, beauty, material possessions, family, finances, among many others. God, in His grace, loves us to much to allow us to be content with these idols. When these things are taken away, we realize that we must trust not in any of the things that were previously mentioned, but in God’s grace and we find hope in the thought of eternity.

Personal App: I was very convicted when the book discussed dying dreams. I began to realize that sometimes we need to die to our own dreams in order to accept God’s plan that is being realized in our life. Often the disappointments in life are caused by us not accepting God as Sovereign. When we let go of our own dreams, we are able to experience something much better, contentment in our Lord.

Stars: 4 out of 5

It would be worth another read and I would recommend it.

Lost in the Middle

Lost in the Middle: MidLife and the Grace of God

By Paul David Tripp

Product Details

  1. Paperback: 348 pages
  1. Publisher: Shepherd Press
  1. Language: English
  1. Date of reading: October 19, 2011

Point: Tripp strives to help the reader understand the struggles that they are going through in the light of God’s grace and love for them. This book is so that you as the reader may see God and yourself more clearly, and that you might find the hope that you need to continue on in life.

Path: Tripp takes the reader through a variety of Bible passages, real life stories, and biblical concepts in order that the real problems behind midlife can be shown.

Agreement: I am not at this stage of life, and I found this book immensely helpful! I found myself forgetting that he was talking about a stage in life that I will probably not arriving to for another twenty years. Tripp talks a lot about our identity being worshippers of God and not tied to all of the other things to which our sinful natures draw us.

Tripp shows how midlife just reveals what idols we may have had in our lives for a long time, such as: health, beauty, material possessions, family, finances, among many others. God, in His grace, loves us to much to allow us to be content with these idols. When these things are taken away, we realize that we must trust not in any of the things that were previously mentioned, but in God’s grace and we find hope in the thought of eternity.

Personal App: I was very convicted when the book discussed dying dreams. I began to realize that sometimes we need to die to our own dreams in order to accept God’s plan that is being realized in our life. Often the disappointments in life are caused by us not accepting God as Sovereign. When we let go of our own dreams, we are able to experience something much better, contentment in our Lord.

Stars: 4 out of 5

It would be worth another read and I would recommend it.

Lost in the Middle – CG

Lost in the Middle: MidLife and the Grace of God

By Paul David Tripp

Product Details

  1. Paperback: 348 pages
  2. Publisher: Shepherd Press
  3. Language: English
  4. Date of reading: October 19, 2011

Point: Tripp strives to help the reader understand the struggles that they are going through in the light of God’s grace and love for them. This book is so that you as the reader may see God and yourself more clearly, and that you might find the hope that you need to continue on in life.

Path: Tripp takes the reader through a variety of Bible passages, real life stories, and biblical concepts in order that the real problems behind midlife can be shown.

Agreement: I am not at this stage of life, and I found this book immensely helpful! I found myself forgetting that he was talking about a stage in life that I will probably not arriving to for another twenty years. Tripp talks a lot about our identity being worshippers of God and not tied to all of the other things to which our sinful natures draw us.

Tripp shows how midlife just reveals what idols we may have had in our lives for a long time, such as: health, beauty, material possessions, family, finances, among many others. God, in His grace, loves us to much to allow us to be content with these idols. When these things are taken away, we realize that we must trust not in any of the things that were previously mentioned, but in God’s grace and we find hope in the thought of eternity.

Personal App: I was very convicted when the book discussed dying dreams. I began to realize that sometimes we need to die to our own dreams in order to accept God’s plan that is being realized in our life. Often the disappointments in life are caused by us not accepting God as Sovereign. When we let go of our own dreams, we are able to experience something much better, contentment in our Lord.

Stars: 4 out of 5

It would be worth another read and I would recommend it.